Therapy for Cycle Breakers
When my clients first come to therapy, they’ve done a lot of work on their own already, but they keep getting stuck.
Does this sound familiar?
You’ve been meaning to start therapy for a while, but you kept putting it off and trying to make things better on your own. A part of you may have even hoped that you could avoid therapy. Things in your family just seem to be getting worse despite all of your efforts to improve your relationships. You love your family, but as you’ve gotten older you seem to be drifting apart. Spending time with them used to be fine, but now you’re noticing more than ever the growing frustration and confusion whenever you leave them. You’re having big feelings about your family dynamics and no one else seems to be reacting the same way. No one else seems to get that there is a problem. It makes you worry that you are reading the situation wrong and worry that there might be something wrong with you for feeling this way.
You’ve tried to make it better. Reading self-improvement books and following mental health advice like self-care and positive thinking has been enlightening and taught you some great things, but nothing seems to help you feel better and deep down you feel like you might be doing it all wrong. Every time your efforts to have more connection with your family don’t work, it makes you wonder if you’re the problem. You may notice this feeling at work too. You care a ton about the work you do and want to do the best job you’re capable of, but this feeling creeps up and you end up exhausting yourself trying to prove it wrong. You try your hardest and every time you make a mistake or don’t meet your own standards, it’s painful. In these moments, you may even feel like a complete failure and feel like an inner deficit is revealed, as if that’s the real you that you are scared others will see.
The stress of all of this is getting to be too much. Living a life with anxiety, worry, and self-doubt is exhausting and you’re ready to get help shifting it. It’s okay to seek support for yourself. You don’t have to do all of it alone.
What will our sessions be like?
Therapy is a space where you get to show up as you are without having to worry about anyone else. It’s a time for you to slow down and intentionally give yourself space to explore what is happening with you. Sometimes my clients feel a little guilty doing this at first, but they soon discover how useful it is to give themselves dedicated time to unpack their experiences. During your first session, we will talk about why you are seeking therapy and what you would like to see changed. I will ask you questions to understand more about your upbringing and what is bothering you the most in your life right now. We will talk about your family, your relationships, and your work. We will process the experiences in your life that have left you feeling anxious or confused.
I will listen intently to you and help you identify the deeper roots of your anxiety and frustration. I will help you learn what changes you can make to lower your anxiety and stress.
Throughout therapy, I use a variety of tools to help you heal and gain clarity on what you need. I incorporate body-based techniques to help you process emotions and increase your awareness of what your body is communicating to you. Our mental health is directly linked to the health of our brains and our bodies and I like to incorporate both. We may use EMDR, a brain-based technique using eye movement. EMDR is especially effective for trauma. Many of my clients seek me out to combine their Enneagram work with therapy. This is a specialty of mine. If you are looking for an Enneagram therapist, I’m well versed in the system and can help you navigate and move through the complex work of your personality type. This is definitely beyond the basics kind of Enneagram work. As we dig deeper into therapy, I will help you identify and learn specific strategies to help you grow.
What will this work do in my life?
Cycle breaker therapy will help you develop more clarity, confidence, and self-assurance. Your awareness of how to have healthier relationships will increase. This includes relationships with family members, friends, partners, and yourself. The clarity you gain will help you understand your family dynamics and know how to navigate them in a way that serves you best. My goal for you is that you will walk away from therapy feeling more in touch with your self-worth and more confident in your ability to give yourself what you need.
The first step to working together is to schedule a free 20 minute phone consultation. Investing your time, money, and emotional energy into therapy or coaching is a big deal. It’s an investment in yourself, your health, and your well-being. It’s important that you make this investment with trust and confidence that working together is a good fit. This is why I offer a 20 minute phone consultation. During this time we can identify your needs and answer any questions that you have about working together. Being a cycle breaker and creating meaningful change involves getting help along the way. You don’t have to do this work all by yourself.